The last few days have been very unpredictable with it being the last few days of school. I am all done with finals and will be moving off campus tomorrow! I am so excited because I think living on campus, and the lack of healthy food options really contributed to my disordered eating habits.
Today I have to go to a school organization sponsored party at a faculty member’s house. Its also a swimming party…which means swimsuits. …every binge eater’s worst nightmare! When I googled “How to Survive a Party for Binge Eaters” Ths article came up from bingesolutions.com, a site I’m not familliar with, but will need to check out. Its Christmas oriented, but the same concepts can apply!
The season has arrived where everything is celebrated through food, drink and glamorous party dresses. Is this time of year a complete nightmare for you? Find out ways to make things easier for yourself so that you can enjoy the fun and festivities too.
Reduce Your Stress
Ask your self what is causing you stress?
Do you feel so fat that you think no dress will look good on you? Have you addressed your body image distress? You don’t have to lose any weight to start feeling good about your body image. Wear something that you feel comfortable in and is not too tight. Add accessories like hair clips, a nice handbag or scarf.
Are you worried about eating your trigger foods? Planin advance how you will negotiate your food plan. You have different options available depending upon the type of food that will be there. You can:- eat your meal before you go; ask the hostess what type of food will be available and select non-triggering food; take food that you contribute as part of a buffet that is safe for you or take your food to enjoy while others eat the catered food. Remember if you fail to plan … you plan to fail. If there are trigger foods remove yourself from the food area or even the party if you feel like bingeing on it. Ask for help from your support network.
Do you feel deprived? Early in recovery lots of binge eaters feel deprived when they realise that they can’t eat like normal eaters. While this may not bother you most of the time, parties can be a time where it seems you are the only person who can’t eat trigger foods without bingeing. Rest assured you are not alone. Almost everyone in recovery has to stop eating certain foods or trigger foods. For me I have had to let go of so many foods but instead I have found a whole new life, free from bingeing. When I think of where I will end up if I eat these trigger foods, I no longer feel deprived.
Dance the night away – Instead of focusing on the food and drink, dance the night away. You will be amazed at how fun it can be to dance the whole night through. You don’t need a partner; dance with your friends, children or alone as part of the disco crowd. I love to party and you will always find me on the dance floor the whole night long. Recovery is about having fun and enjoying yourself – not being miserable about what food you can’t eat.
Focus on the company – A party is about socializing with friends, family and new people. As binge eaters we often think that a party is all about the food and drink but in recovery we have to learn about being social and interacting with other people. It takes practice to master this skill.
No regrets – Christmas parties are notorious for overindulging on food, drink and sex. It doesn’t have to be this way. You can choose to do things differently this year. The best thing is you get to wake up the next day without the guilt and remorse that as a binge eater you will know only too well. You can also go through the whole Christmas period without gaining any weight – that is the miracle of being in recovery.
Remember if you can’t cope with the food or drink, leave the party and hold onto your recovery. There will always be more parties in the future but if you relapse there is no telling when you will get back into recovery again.
I think focusing on the social aspect is very important and also remembering that I will eat again! Its not like will never see these foods again! Plus, if I think about how great I will feel if I don’t binge